Are We Happy? 

It is counterintuitive to believe that humans will never be happy if we don’t get what we want. There was an experiment tested to see happiness levels. They asked a lottery winner a year after they won and a parapoligic a year after he lost his legs. No one would have ever guessed they both felt equally happy. You could fail or pass a test, lose a sports game, lose an election and even win or lose that bet and it still will have no outcome on your long term happiness. 

Little do we all know that in our brain we all have this system. This system changes the world as we see it. We think that it is a thing that needs to be found. People synthesize these feelings of happiness. Look at this example of Jim Wright. He was a democratic chong rosman who had everything he wanted. When a negative situation came out of the dark, he lost everything. Years later they asked him how he felt he told us that he did not need those things he was happier now. 

To understand this all you need to know the difference between Natural happiness and synthetic happiness. Natural happiness happens when you get what you want. Synthetic happiness is what happens when you don’t get what you want. Then you say to yourself, or eventually realize that you never needed that thing in the first place. Simple enough right? 

Let’s say you win  that sports game, you get a rush of natural happiness. This cannot be hidden, you let all your emotions out. Then on the other hand let’s say you have a crush on a boy or girl and they reject you. At that moment you’re going to feel heartbroken. Then days, maybe months down the line you get into a new relationship, or stay single. You are going to look back and say that you never needed her anyway, it was for the better. This is synthetic happiness such as the example earlier. 

You will never be unhappy. Your brain always adapts and changes to what is going on in your life now. Everything that has happened in your past make you happy today, yesterday and or even last month.

Student wealth and achievement 

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/pisa-wealth_n_4641669

It seems counterintuitive that students who are richer test better than the rich. They give the PISA test to about 60 counties with the same answers. You see on a worldwide level, weath does make a difference, but does it in United states 

In the United States you see the opposite, the wealthy scores are significantly better. Joy Resmovits, a reporter for The Huffington Post, states, “the poorest kids scored around a 433 out of 700 on the math portion of PISA, while the wealthiest ones netted about a 547.” This result is over a 100 point differential. 

Extreme parenting

https://www.nytimes.com/roomfordebate/2011/01/13/is-extreme-parenting-effective?src=me&ref=homepage

It’s counterintuitive to believe that extreme parenting is best for our children. In a study, you see that some households don’t let their child go on playdates, join extracurricular activities, and even get grades lower than an A. There are theories saying that this type of parent style leads to greater success later in life but do they miss out on being a Kid? 

We find out in this that children with a more stick childhood tend to grow up with more discipline, and self control. This does not mean that they will be more successful in life. On the other hand, kids who work harder, and put more effort into something usually see better results. In some instances, kids who are pushed harder and with higher standards in school usually get the better outcomes.