Authoritarian parents get precisely what they deserve: children who do everything they can to resist the control exerted from above and rebel in various, unpredictable ways, including but not limited to failing all their classes as a deliberate rebuke to their parents’ demands. That’s what Authoritarian parents expect from their children. Authoritarian parents have really high expectations from their children; they fight for their children to succeed in their field, like paying for extra tutoring for their kids and helping them study more in their own free time. My aunt is an example of an Authoritarian parent. I remember talking to my cousins, and they said their mom is really strict and doesn’t play any games when it comes to academics; there are no excuses when they receive a specific grade, and if they do receive a bad grade, they receive many backlashes, with all this, they didn’t even succeed in their field and this pressure and rules made them a little depressed, and they didn’t like what their mom chose for them.
Authoritarian parents expect their children never to follow whatever they tell them; their no discussion. Many parents choose this style, but their many reasons for it; for example, it could be because of their morals and culture or because their parents brought them up that way, and that’s the only way they know how to teach their child. It might be an endless chain, but if I trust this type of parent style, here are some of the rules that they teach. For instance, these parents think having obedience from their child is a form of love. It doesn’t matter if the child grew up wealthy or poor, Authoritarian parents will do everything in their power to help their children reach a level they envision.
In her “Authoritarian parenting style” article, Tracy Traunter stated, “Having strict rules that must be followed. Children are punished if rules are not followed. Punishment is usually harsh and punitive. It can become abusive, physically and emotionally,” “she claims.” She continues by saying that “There is typically no give and take, and will exert complete and total control over the family.” Personally, I don’t support these types of parenting styles because it’s unhealthy and can hurt a child in many ways.
I understand that these types of parents want their children to succeed but teach a child differently. There is a negative side effect to Authoritarian parents; here are some of the outcomes stated by Tracy Traunter in her “Authoritarian parenting style” article “Children are aggressive, but can also be socially inept, shy and cannot make their own decisions,” and “Children in these families have poor self-esteem, are poor judges of character, and will rebel against authority figures when they are older.” “she claims.” those children could also struggle to think for themselves when they’re older if they have been told what to do every day like this by their parents. They can also have difficulties expressing themselves to other people; this parenting type can really mess up a child mentally. Authoritarian parents’ problem is that they don’t express their feelings to their children, especially when they don’t meet their expectations, and that horrible. I understand that children have to follow the rules parents have placed in their household, but if they make a mistake, sit down and explain to them what they did like authoritative parents don’t just always punish them severely. Children can end up hating their parents later in the future.
Rachel Sawicki wrote an article describing her experience growing up as an Authoritarian parent. I know this is only one person’s experience, but she explains how she lost many companions, was in and out of relationships and didn’t enjoy spending time with her family. As she goes more into her story, she describes her mom and says that she was an Authoritarian parent and taught her everything she knows right now. She remembers always getting yelled at for small mistakes that genuinely weren’t that serious. One of the moments she vividly remembers was when she chose to dress up for dinner one night because she enjoyed dressing up and thought she would get some happy faces and flattery from everyone, but she got in trouble for not being on time for dinner by her mother.
Rachel Sawicki says in her “Personal Essay: I’m not angry, I just have authoritarian parents” “Why would you put that on before dinner? There’s no need to get dressed up. That outfit is uncalled for, go and take it off right now,” her mom only yelled at her, she didn’t receive one compliment. she continues “I cried the rest of the night.” Rachel Sawicki went more in and described her middle school days. Rachel Sawicki says in her “Personal Essay: I’m not angry, I just have authoritarian parents” “I had my phone taken away every other week” even if she made a little mistake, her mother would go through her phone and scold her for anything unrefined that she sent to her peers that were only supposed to be seen by only her and her schoolmate. During her highschool life, Rachel came out bi, and she described how hard it was for her to fit in school; Rachel Sawicki says in her “Personal Essay: I’m not angry, I just have authoritarian parents” “I was isolated from my friends and had my phone taken away for almost six months and was still heavily monitored and controlled for another six months to a year after getting it back.” Going through hose experiences made her life horrible she continues, “I was extremely suicidal and wanted to run away. Not once did my mom ever ask me why I felt the way I did nor did she listen when I tried to explain. I was wrong and she was right, end of story”. She never wanted to go to therapy because she thought it was a form of torture her mom wanted to do to her. This story by Rachel Sawicki is an example of the negative side effects of having an authoritarian parent. This type of parenting can lead children to be depressed and have social anxiety and destroy their future.
Authoritarian parenting has some negative side effects like depression and social anxiety-like in my previous paragraph and their positive outcomes about Authoritarian parenting; It’s up for parents to decide how to teach their child.
Tracy Trautner, Michigan State University Extension. “Authoritarian Parenting Style.” MSU Extension, 20 Sept. 2018, www.canr.msu.edu/news/authoritarian_parenting_style.
Sawicki, Rachel. “Personal Essay: I’m Not Angry, I Just Have Authoritarian Parents.” The Review, 5 Mar. 2020, udreview.com/personal-essay-im-not-angry-i-just-have-authoritarian-parents/.