If primary caretakers have a negative attitude towards their child, it increases the risk that their child will grow up hostile to others. And it’s not just aggression from other children which results from the child abuse. A large amount of children raised by hostile parents also harm themselves. The reason for this abuse is that the children don’t learn appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. If you aren’t raised with coping skills, you’re much more likely to act inappropriately than if you had developed more reasonable approaches. The effect of poor parenting as reported by Dr. Geoffrey in, ‘The Bully Papers’ is that everyone gets the child they deserve.