If a primary caretaker has a negative attitude towards a child it increases the risk that the child will grow up hostile towards others. And it’s not just aggression towards others that results from child abuse but also children harming themselves. Negative behavior is a result of children not learning appropriate techniques for handling life disappointments. If a child isn’t raised with coping skills, the child will most likely act ‘inappropriately’ compared to one who has developed more reasonable approaches. As reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers,” the effect of poor parenting is everyone gets the child they deserve.