If a primary caretaker has a negative attitude toward their child, it increases the risk that their child will grow up hostile towards others. Moreover, it is not just aggression toward others that results from child abuse; many children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. This negative behavior is because the children do not learn appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. If people fail to have the proper coping skills, they are much too likely to act ‘inappropriately’ if they have developed more reasonable approaches. As reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers,” the effect of poor parenting is that everyone gets the child they deserve.