If a primary caretaker has a negative attitude toward their child, it increases the risk that their child will grow up hostile towards others. And it’s not just aggression toward others that results from child abuse; many children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. This malicious behavior is because the children don’t learn appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. If you aren’t raised with coping skills, you are likely to act ‘inappropriately’ if you have developed more reasonable approaches. As reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers, ” the effect of poor parenting is that everyone gets the child they deserve.