Authoritarian vs. Authoritative parents. These two types of parenting styles can affect your child in many ways. So supposed you grew up with an Authoritarian parent, you should know that they are stern and strict. “It insists on unquestioning obedience, and enforces good behavior through threats, shaming, and other punishments.” While an Authoritative parent, they are “responsive to the child’s emotional needs while having high standards. They set limits and are very consistent in enforcing boundaries”(Leslie De Jong). These two parenting styles can affect your child positively and negatively.
To go more in-depth about an Authoritarian parent, as said in my first paragraph, they are controlling. They instead have absolute authority; they don’t even reward their children for their positive behavior, and the only feedback they are willing to give their child punishment for when they don’t listen to what they told them. Authoritarian parents are genuinely demanding. “Authoritarian parents have lots of rules and may even micromanage almost every aspect of their children’s lives and behaviors, at home and in public” (Kendra Cherry, 2020, paragraph. 6). They have way too many rules in their household that their children must follow. Authoritarian parents are hard on their children; they give no emotional love to their children, no applause, or uplifting their child. Authoritarian parents don’t want you to have fun in your life.
Authoritarian parents won’t allow their child to make their own choices. Their whole life is basically planned out for them. I can go into more, but you get the gist of what I’m explaining; know that this type of parenting can have these effects on your child. Your child can be hostile to other people, be shy when talking to people, be depressed, etc.
Now to go into Authoritative parents. Unlike authoritarian parents, these parents listen to their children and want them to express their opinion. Authoritative parents help their children with their feelings and show them how to express it. For example, when their child is angry and starts throwing objects, they don’t only punish them but explain to them what they are doing is wrong and teach them the right way to handle it. These types of parents consider their child’s feelings.
Having an authoritarian parent could be useful in specific ways. I understand these types of parents want their child to follow their rules, but they shouldn’t be overbearing. They should look for a way to combine both Authoritarian and Authoritative parenting styles.
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