If primary caretakers have a negative attitude toward their child it increases the risk that the child will grow up hostile towards others. It’s not just aggression toward others that results from child abuse; a large number of children raised by abusive parents harm themselves. The reason for this negative behavior is that the children don’t learn appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. If you aren’t raised with coping skills, you’re much more likely to act ‘inappropriately’ than if you had developed more reasonable approaches. The effect of poor parenting as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers,” is that everyone gets the child that they deserve.