If primary caretakers have a negative attitude toward their child it increases the risk that their child will grow up hostile towards others. Aggression toward other children results from child abuse; a large amount of children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. Negative behavior is because the children don’t learn appropriate techniques for handling lifes disappointments. Children that aren’t raised with coping skills are much more likely to act ‘inappropriately’ than children who have developed more reasonable approaches. The effect of poor parenting as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers,” is that pirmary caretakers get the children they deserve.