If a primary caretakers has a negative attitude towards a child, it increases the risk that the child will grow up hostile towards others. Aggression towards others is not the only thing that will result from child abuse; a large number of children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. The reason for this negative behavior stems from children not learning appropriate techniques to handle life’s disappointments. If a child is not raised with coping skills, they are much more likely to act “inappropriately” then if more reasonable approaches were developed. The effect of poor parenting as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers,” is that everyone gets the child that they deserve.