If primary caretakers have a negative attitude towards their children, it increases the risk that the children will grow up hostile towards others. Its not just aggression toward others that results from child abuse, a large amount of children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. Negative behavior stems from the fact that children don’t learn appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. If they aren’t raised with coping skills, these children are much more likely to act “inappropriately” then if more reasonable approaches have been developed. The effect of poor parenting, as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers”, is that everyone gets the child they deserve.