If a primary caregiver has a negative attitude toward their child, it increases the risk that their child will grow up hostile towards others. And its not just aggression toward others that results from child abuse. A large amount of children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. The reason for this negative behavior is caused by children who don’t learn appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. If someone aren’t raised with coping skills, they’re more likely to act “inappropriately” than if they were to develop more reasonable approaches. The effect of poor parenting as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers”, is that everyone gets the child they deserve.